On woman part 2

This musing is inspired by one of my favourite RJs. On last night’s show, he commented that women have a power over men that can be used to draw make them dance to their lines. I really don’t know how or where to begin or end. This is absolutely true. But, the under currents are so much more than he could conceive. First of all, this particular ‘power’ he refers to is of raw sexuality. To understand that statement, we need to look into the process of evolution of gender. The primary objective of any species is to propagate themselves. In this process, man had the role to impregnate as many women as he could while female had to make sure she got impregnated by the fittest male to enrich the gene pool. Haven’t you ever wondered why men mostly go for younger women and women go for men who could protect them? Well, this facet of life originates from evolution. So while this inextricably torturous factor remains in our build up, it is also true that society has changed, there are many other factors in play. Evolution continues. The point is that this power is not limited to one female. Every female has it. So when a male meets a female he isn’t committed to and is attracted (which is quite natural) to her,  what my dear RJ doesn’t perceive is this invisible thread of control from good to better genetic prospects. I am not talking about intellectual relationships where mind does matter, but about the ordinary section of the species. Now, here man is tempted to go for a smaller reward of granting attention to this woman temporarily forgetting that a longer fulfilling relationship with the other woman is what he actually wanted. When a woman finds out that she is ‘cheated’ upon, naturally that bond of trust is broken. So, this illusion of ‘power’ is nothing more than an illusion.

Secondly, I take offence at his advice to make use of this power. It is stereotyping. It is telling a woman that she has to use tact, sexuality and her charms to stay in a relationship. I agree that it is how it works most often, but it is wrong. There is a phrase Stoop to Win, when it comes to women. An advice rendered through mothers generation to generation. Females have to use tact, keep the man to her side, feed him right and he will protect you. In this 21^st century, designating this strategy as the ultimate weapon of one half of the population is no more acceptable. It shouldn’t be acceptable. It becomes all the more atrocious when an opinion such as this is aired through a popular show. It is as degenerating as telling a woman she should lay back, open wide and think of god, whenever he commands her to.

I am not going to whine on how men treat women and how we are subjugated. As far as I am concerned, men are in the same cage as women, they just don’t realize it because the material aspects are for their benefits. Whenever somebody sees and not perceives through the blindfold, he/she is nothing but blind. But whenever he/she has her eyes gauged out because truth was seen and can see no more, still the perception is there. This stereotyping of both genders occurs very slowly, continuously and steadily. The reason why we are still primates with the animalistic instincts controlling us is because of this. Throughout history, ever since family became a unit in the idea of private property, human race has needed an order to be kept. And for this order, some sections had to obey. It is quite simple actually. Who obeys? The physically weaker. Who is physically superior- the warrior or the potter? This warrior can control women, traders and serfs. But not god. That’s how clergy came into existence. So you see, we are still living in an extended version of Vedic times. Isn’t it time we moved past?

As I read somewhere, ‘The emotional, sexual, and psychological stereotyping of females begins when the doctor says, "It's a girl."’.